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Under the Mistletoe: A Rancher’s Take on a Christmas Classic

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By Savannah Magoteaux

There’s a clump of green growing high in the oak tree at the edge of our pasture that I used to mistake for a bird’s nest. It’s there every winter, long after the leaves have fallen, standing out like it’s proud to be different. I didn’t give it much thought until one December morning, when I realized that the same plant people hang in doorways for Christmas kisses was quietly thriving right there on my land—mistletoe.

We’ve all heard of mistletoe, but I’ll admit I didn’t know much about it beyond the tradition. Turns out, it’s one of the more fascinating plants in nature—and one with a reputation that’s as mixed as fruitcake.

Mistletoe isn’t exactly the innocent greenery we hang with ribbons. It’s a parasitic plant, which means it survives by attaching itself to the branches of trees and shrubs, stealing water and nutrients from its host. In North Texas, the most common variety is Phoradendron leucarpum, sometimes called “American mistletoe.” You’ll find it growing on mesquites, hackberries, oaks, and pecans—trees tough enough to handle its stubborn ways.

Despite its reputation, mistletoe doesn’t always kill the trees it lives on. In small amounts, it’s more of an annoyance than a death sentence. But when trees are stressed by drought, age, or damage, too much mistletoe can sap their strength. It’s a slow drain—like a house guest who never quite leaves.

If you want to control it, pruning the infected limb well below where the mistletoe attaches is the best option. Spraying won’t do much good. Most ranchers, myself included, tend to shrug and let it be. After all, it’s part of the landscape—green when everything else is brown, defiant when winter sets in.

Before it was tied up in red ribbons, mistletoe had ancient symbolism. The Druids in Europe saw it as a sacred plant, believing it had healing powers and could bring peace and fertility. Warriors would supposedly lay down their weapons if they met beneath it.

That tradition of “peace under the mistletoe” evolved over centuries. The Norse myth of Baldur, the god of light and joy, tells of his death by an arrow made of mistletoe. His mother’s tears became the plant’s white berries, and she declared that mistletoe would never again cause harm—instead, it would inspire love and forgiveness. From that legend came the idea of kissing beneath it.

By the 18th century, English servants were hanging mistletoe in doorways, and it became a symbol of romance during the holidays. If a man caught a woman standing under it, he could steal a kiss—though tradition said he had to pluck one of the berries each time. Once the berries were gone, the kissing privileges ended.

Those little white berries are one reason to be cautious. They’re mildly toxic to people and pets, though birds eat them without issue. In fact, birds are the main reason mistletoe spreads. They eat the berries, then leave the seeds behind—often stuck to a branch with a little help from nature’s glue.

The seeds sprout and send out a specialized root system called a haustorium, which penetrates the bark of the host tree. From there, mistletoe grows its own leaves and even flowers in late winter, producing the next generation of berries by spring.

So, while it may have a romantic image, mistletoe’s life cycle is all about survival. It’s a little opportunistic, a little resilient—and maybe that’s why it fits so well into the Christmas season.

Around here, mistletoe isn’t just a decoration—it’s a familiar winter sight. Cowboys once sold it to make extra money during the holidays, harvesting clumps from trees with long poles and bundling them for markets. It was one of the few green plants available in winter, so it made its way into homes, churches, and holiday dances across the South.

Today, most mistletoe used in Christmas décor is still the real deal—often gathered from oak or mesquite trees just like mine. There’s something fitting about that: a plant that thrives in hard places becoming a symbol of love and celebration.

When I look up at the mistletoe on our ranch now, I see more than just a tangle of green. It’s a reminder that even something a little rough around the edges can bring beauty and connection. It’s part parasite, part peace offering—a contradiction hanging high in the trees.

So this Christmas, if you find yourself standing under the mistletoe, remember: it’s not just about a kiss. It’s about resilience, tradition, and finding something living and green when the rest of the world looks cold and bare.

References:

  • Texas A&M Forest Service, Parasitic Plants of Texas Trees: Mistletoe
  • Oklahoma State University Extension, Controlling Mistletoe on Trees
  • Smithsonian Magazine, The Strange History of Kissing Under the Mistletoe
  • U.S. Forest Service, Mistletoe Ecology and Management in the South
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Worthless Horse

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By Bryce Angell

Some time ago I had a horse, a kind of dapple gray. His father was Arabian; his mother, who can say?

His real name was India, we never called him that. We named him Indie just for short. We should have called him Brat!

His body was magnificent. He walked with head held high. Yet he was scared of his own shadow, and we never found out why.

One day while riding on the trail, that horse thought he’d skedaddle. He whirled around and took a leap with me still in the saddle.

Thank heaven for that big pine tree that stopped us in the air. If it wasn’t for that conifer, we might have died right there.

Well, Indie made it back again without a single scratch. I lost my coat and saddlebags. That horse was quite a catch!

The other riders said to me, “You should let Indie go. The next time that you’re riding him, he’ll stomp you, don’t you know?”

I said I’d give him one more try. Each horse deserves a chance. I’d see if he would come around. I had to take that stance.

It wasn’t but a day or two, a doctor friend and I were riding on the river’s edge. Who knew my time was nigh?

Well, all at once a deer jumped out. Old Indie leaped up high. I came down on the saddle horn. I tried hard not to cry.

My doctor friend rode up and said, “Hey, Bryce, are you all right?” I said, “I’ll sing soprano if I make it through the night.”

He checked me over, spoke again, “I have some stuff for pain.” I moaned, “No thanks, just shoot me now before I cuss in vain!”

Well, Indie’s gone. I made a deal, gave him away for free. The deal was to keep that psycho horse away from me.

Goodbye old horse. Good riddance. Your owner’s been informed. Although you are a beauty, your mind must be deformed.

A skittish one like Indie, you don’t forget, of course. And I wonder how they’re doing, new owner and old horse.

So I check the papers every day. The obits I peruse. And thank the Lord that neither one has made the daily news.

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Pumpkins on the Porch

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By Ann Asher

Long before the first pumpkin-spice sign appears in a store, pumpkins start showing up on porches. Some are carved, some are stacked beside mums and hay bales, and some stay right where they were placed until the first hard freeze turns them soft. The tradition feels thoroughly American, but its story crosses the Atlantic.

People in Ireland and other parts of the British Isles carved lanterns from turnips and other root vegetables long before pumpkins became the standard. The practice became tied to Halloween customs and stories of wandering spirits. Carvers hollowed out the vegetables, gave them faces and lit them from within.

Immigrants brought those traditions to North America, where they found a much better carving material. Pumpkins were native to the Americas and were grown here for food long before European settlement. Compared with a hard turnip, a large pumpkin was easier to hollow out and offered a much bigger surface for a face.

The pumpkin has an American agricultural story that predates Halloween by thousands of years. Indigenous peoples domesticated squashes in the genus Cucurbita and grew them for food long before European colonization. Early European settlers quickly adopted squash and pumpkins because they stored well and provided reliable calories.

By the 19th century, pumpkins were increasingly tied to American autumn imagery. They were harvest food, livestock feed and a symbol of rural abundance. American writers were already using them as symbols of country life and harvest. Washington Irving’s 1820 story “The Legend of Sleepy Hollow” famously ends with a shattered pumpkin, although it doesn’t describe a carved jack-o’-lantern. Later 19th-century newspapers and magazines increasingly connected carved pumpkins with Halloween celebrations. Halloween grew into a widely celebrated community holiday, and the jack-o’-lantern became one of its most recognizable decorations.

The porch pumpkin that never gets carved owes as much to harvest decorating as to Halloween. Corn shocks, gourds, apples and pumpkins once represented what had come out of fields and gardens. Today’s fall porch may be more decorative than practical, but it still borrows from the look of harvest.

The modern porch display blends several threads that developed separately: harvest decoration, Halloween lanterns and the pumpkin’s long place in American agriculture. That is why the same pumpkin can look perfectly at home beside a scarecrow in early October and become a jack-o’-lantern by the end of the month.

Commercial pumpkin production eventually reinforced the tradition. Growers selected varieties for carving size, strong stems, unusual colors and long display life as well as eating quality. The pumpkin patch became an attraction of its own, turning harvest into a family outing.

Oklahoma farms now sell everything from classic orange carving pumpkins to white, blue-gray and deeply ribbed heirloom types. The porch display may look modern, but it still depends on a crop bred and grown to handle fall weather better than most garden produce.

Pumpkins also fit the season unusually well. They keep for weeks when handled carefully, come in enough shapes and colors to satisfy any decorator and can move from porch to kitchen if they are edible varieties. Afterward, you can compost sound, undecorated pumpkins instead of sending them to the landfill.

One caution: don’t offer painted or chemically treated pumpkins to livestock or wildlife, and don’t dump even plain pumpkins in large quantities for wild animals. Local rules may also prohibit intentional wildlife feeding.

A pumpkin on an Oklahoma porch may look like nothing more than seasonal decoration. Behind it is a mix of Indigenous agriculture, European folk custom, immigration and American harvest culture. That is a lot of history for something we eventually cut a smile into.

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Where the Paved Road Ends: A Coat of Many Colors

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By Beth Watkins

I have started this over and over.

Usually, when that happens, it’s because I can’t think of anything to say. This time, it’s because I have too much.

Too many memories. Too many feelings. A heart full of gratitude mixed with a sadness that feels a little silly when you consider I never actually knew Dolly Parton.

And yet, somehow, didn’t we all feel like we did?

When the news came that Dolly had died, a collective sadness seemed to settle over people from every walk of life. Country music fans, rock stars, grandmothers, little girls, people from the mountains and people who wouldn’t know which end of a cow the feed goes in.

Everybody had a Dolly story.

Mine begins in a little trailer house.

My sister and I shared a bedroom growing up, and although I couldn’t tell you exactly how old we were, I can still picture that room. It wasn’t much bigger than the full-size bed pushed against the wall. There wasn’t room for matching nightstands, reading chairs or any of the things Pinterest would now tell us a bedroom requires.

There was just enough room for two sisters.

And at night, my sister would sing me to sleep.

She has always had a beautiful voice, and the song that seemed to send me off to sleep best was Dolly Parton’s “Coat of Many Colors.”

I can still hear it.

Funny how memories work. I couldn’t tell you what color the curtains were or what was hanging on the wall. I couldn’t tell you what pajamas I had on or what we had eaten for supper. But more than fifty years later, I can close my eyes and hear my sister singing about a little girl whose mama stitched together a coat made from rags and told her the Bible story of Joseph and his coat of many colors.

Every stitch was sewn with love.

Back then, I only knew it was a pretty song that somehow soothed my little-girl soul. I didn’t know I was listening to a lesson.

A lesson about poverty without shame. About finding abundance in what the world might call lack. About the difference between what something costs and what something is worth.

Maybe that is why Dolly’s death feels strangely personal to so many of us.

Her songs found their way into bedrooms and kitchens, old pickups and beauty shops. They became part of weddings, funerals, childhoods and long drives home. Somewhere along the way, Dolly Parton became woven into the fabric of our lives.

Since her passing, I have seen one phrase repeated again and again:

Be like Dolly.

Be kind like Dolly. Love people like Dolly. Give like Dolly. Don’t judge people. Treat everyone with dignity. Stay humble. Stay true to who you are.

I understand exactly what people mean. Lord knows the world could use a whole lot more of that.

But I keep thinking… those ideas didn’t begin with Dolly Parton.

The Bible was here long before Dolly. The Ten Commandments were here long before Dolly. “Love your neighbor as yourself” was spoken long before somebody glued the first rhinestone onto a guitar.

And Dolly herself would have known that better than most.

She grew up dirt poor in the mountains of Tennessee, one of twelve children, in a family where faith wasn’t reserved for Sunday morning. She grew up singing in church, and throughout her life she spoke openly about prayer, God, forgiveness and her belief that the gifts she had been given came with a purpose.

She believed God had His hand on her life and that she was supposed to do something good with it.

I’d say she did.

Dolly didn’t spend her life preaching Christianity at people. She lived much of it in front of them.

She fed people. She helped people. She put books into the hands of millions of children who might otherwise never have owned one. She poured money back into the poor mountain community she came from. She stepped forward when disaster devastated families. She treated the powerful and the powerless with the same dignity.

And somehow, she became one of the most famous women in the world without deciding that made her better than anybody else.

She also seemed to understand something we have forgotten lately: Not every conversation has to become a political argument.

Dolly was asked plenty of times to weigh in on politics, and she repeatedly made it clear that she was an entertainer, not a politician. She had opinions, of course she did, but she didn’t seem to believe every opinion needed a microphone.

Well, mercy. Imagine that.

Today we can’t seem to buy tomatoes without somebody wanting to know how we vote. Dolly somehow managed to welcome people without first requiring them to agree with her.

Maybe that’s part of the void we feel now. We didn’t just lose a singer. We lost one of those increasingly rare people almost everybody had agreed we could simply love.

But I think we need to be careful here.

If we say, “Don’t let Dolly’s spirit die,” and all we mean is play her music louder, wear rhinestones, visit Dollywood and quote her funny sayings, then I think we’ve missed the best part of what she left us.

Honor her by doing what she did.

See people. Help somebody who can’t repay you. Give quietly. Speak kindly. Remember where you came from. Laugh at yourself. Use whatever God placed in your hands to make somebody else’s road a little easier.

And for heaven’s sake, sometimes keep your opinion to yourself.

Maybe the message isn’t really Be like Dolly. Maybe it’s this: Remember who Dolly was trying to be like: Jesus.

A woman who understood that she had been blessed, and therefore had a responsibility to bless somebody else. A light. And lights aren’t meant merely to be admired. They’re meant to help somebody else find their way.

Somewhere in my memory, there will always be a little trailer-house bedroom, a full-size bed pushed against the wall, and my sister’s beautiful voice singing a Dolly Parton song until her big sister drifted off to sleep.

I didn’t know then that the song would follow me through nearly every season of my life. Even now, when my sister and I take one of our sister trips and end up sharing a hotel room, I still make the same request:

Sing me my song.

And she does.

I didn’t know, lying in that little bed all those years ago, that the woman who wrote those words would one day leave such an enormous empty space behind.

But even through the sadness, I can’t help but smile. Somewhere beyond what we can see, I like to imagine Heaven’s choir sounding just a little sweeter now.

Dolly left a void here on earth, but she also left something behind that death cannot take away: the example of a life lived with faith, generosity, humor, humility and love.

Maybe we don’t keep her light alive by trying to become Dolly. Maybe we keep it alive by remembering what she knew all along:

The light was never hers to begin with. It came from God. She simply let it shine.

And now it’s our turn.

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