Country Lifestyles
It’s All About Perspective
By Alex Haigood
I never knew my grandfather, Millard Haigood. He died in his mid-40s in 1956. At the time of his death, he was serving as a county commissioner in Clay County. I feel like you kind of miss out on something when you don’t get to be around one of your grandparents. Even though I never got to spend time with him, I still learned a valuable lesson from him.
The year was around 1930. Our country was in the midst of the Great Depression. My grandfather would have been about 19 years old. Times were obviously tough, and money and jobs were hard to come by. My great-uncle (my grandfather’s much younger brother) told me this story of how he got by during those hard times.
My grandfather and another of his brothers hired on to grub mesquites—not with a dozer or tractor, but by hand. Apparently, the mesquites were thick and good-sized. They used an axe, pick, and grubbing hoe to clear the land. They were paid $10 an acre. It’s said that if they worked hard, they could clear an acre a week. That’s $5 a week, or less than a dollar per day per brother. I can’t imagine swinging an axe, pick, or grubbing hoe all day. I appreciate that even though jobs were scarce, they worked at what they could find.
My great-uncle gave me an old axe, pick, and grubbing hoe that came out of my great-grandmother’s shed. I suspect those were the very tools those young men used on those mesquites many years ago.
We all have bad days and discouraging times. We probably feel sorry for ourselves from time to time because of the circumstances we’re going through. I can look at those old tools hanging on the wall and remind myself that I have it pretty good. Sometimes we need to stop and realize how much God has blessed us.
Even though I never knew my grandfather, he still left me an example of hard work, determination, and perseverance. Sometimes I just have to put things in the right perspective.
Country Lifestyles
When a City Girl Goes Country: The Calf with a Heart
By Annette Bridges
After nearly fifty years of raising cattle, you would think we had seen it all.
Spring calves come and go in steady rhythm. Strong ones. Spotted ones. Long-legged ones. Some we remember. Most we don’t.
But on April 2, 2025, one calf captured our heart with his.
He stood beside his mama in the green spring grass, still unsteady on new legs, and right there in the center of his forehead was a perfectly shaped white heart.
Not a dot. Not a crooked patch. A heart.
I blinked. I tilted my head. I walked closer. Surely it was just the angle of the light. But no, it was there. Clear as day.
We named him Valentine.
His mother, Blackie, is the matriarch of our herd: tall, steady and wise in the way good cows are. She has raised strong calves year after year, and each one carries her little signature, a white tip on the tail. Valentine does too.
His sire, Jimbo, is our registered Black Angus bull, with a calm temperament and solid build. Between the two of them, Valentine has good bones beneath that charming marking.
As he’s grown, so has the heart. It hasn’t faded or blurred. If anything, it’s become more defined.
Strangers who see his photograph often ask if I edited it in. I didn’t. I wouldn’t know how if I tried.
John reminds me that hearts don’t add pounds at the sale barn.
He’s right, of course. Ranching is business. Calves grow, calves sell. That’s the rhythm.
But every now and then, something small interrupts the practical march of it all, a reminder that even in a life built on feed schedules, breeding charts and market reports, there is still room for wonder.
Valentine will soon leave our pasture, whether through private treaty or the auction ring. What I know is simple: after half a century spent welcoming new life into the pasture, I’ve never seen a calf take its first breath with a heart so boldly stitched on.
Maybe that’s the point. Some things don’t change the numbers. They just change you.
Country Lifestyles
Putting Life Back in Your Soil
By NTFR Staff
By the end of summer, I’m usually ready to blame the weather for everything that went wrong in my garden. The heat was too intense. The rain came at the wrong time, or it didn’t come at all. The squash bugs were relentless, and the weeds somehow grew better than anything I planted on purpose.
All of that may be true, but this year I’ve also had to admit something else: some of my garden soil is tired.
After seasons of planting, watering, digging and walking through the beds, soil can become compacted, low in organic matter or out of balance. It may drain poorly after a heavy rain, then turn hard and cracked a few days later. Water may run across the surface instead of soaking in. Plants can stay small, develop pale leaves or struggle to produce even with regular care.
Healthy soil doesn’t have to be perfectly dark, loose or full of earthworms, but it should give roots access to water, nutrients and air. Improving it takes more than dumping on a bag of fertilizer and hoping for the best.
Starting with what the soil needs
My first step is a soil test.
It isn’t the most exciting garden project, but it may keep me from spending money on products my soil doesn’t need. A soil test reports pH and nutrient levels, then recommends fertilizer based on what I plan to grow. Texas A&M AgriLife runs a soil-testing laboratory for gardeners and landowners, and local Extension offices can explain how to collect and submit a representative sample.
The important word is representative. Soil can vary from one side of a garden to the other, so a useful sample should combine soil from several spots in the same growing area. Problem spots that are clearly different should generally be tested separately instead of mixed into the main sample.
Until I get those results, I don’t need to assume every struggling plant wants more fertilizer. Too much fertilizer can damage plants, waste money and add to nutrient runoff. The problem may not be a shortage of nutrients at all. It could be the wrong pH, poor drainage, compaction or roots that can’t reach what’s already there.
Next, I’ll add organic matter, particularly finished compost. Organic matter improves the soil’s physical condition and makes many soils easier to work. In heavy soil, compost helps air and water move. In sandy soil, it helps the ground hold more moisture and nutrients.
Texas gardeners work with a wide range of soils, but Texas A&M AgriLife notes that almost any garden soil improves with organic matter. When you prepare a fall garden, that material should be well decomposed, not fresh or half-broken-down.
I’ve been guilty of thinking more compost is always better. It isn’t. Compost contains nutrients, and repeated heavy applications can eventually build up excessive nutrient levels. Apply finished compost with some thought, especially if it contains manure. A soil test can tell you whether the garden needs nutrients, organic matter or both.
For an established vegetable or flower bed, I can spread a modest layer of finished compost on the surface and gently work it into the top of the soil where needed. I don’t need to turn the whole garden upside down. Heavy tilling can break down soil structure, disturb beneficial organisms and leave a loose surface sitting on top of a compacted layer.
Protecting the beds
Compaction is one of my bigger problems, and I know exactly how it happened. I step into the garden to pull weeds, pick vegetables, fix irrigation and reach plants at the back of the bed. After enough trips, especially when the ground is wet, the soil packs down.
My fix won’t be a more powerful tiller. It will be better garden design. I can lay out permanent walking paths and keep my feet out of the planting areas. Beds should be narrow enough that I can reach the center from the edge. Limiting foot traffic protects the spaces where roots need loose soil, water and oxygen.
I also need to stop leaving soil bare.
Bare soil may look neat, but it takes the full force of pounding rain, runoff, erosion, weeds and moisture loss. In Texas heat, uncovered soil dries fast and forms a hard crust. Mulch protects it by reducing evaporation, moderating soil temperature and blocking the sunlight weed seeds need. Organic mulch also adds organic material as it breaks down.
Depending on the bed, I can use shredded leaves, clean straw, compost, grass clippings that haven’t been treated with herbicides or other suitable organic materials. I’ll keep mulch a few inches away from plant stems and tree trunks instead of piling it against them.
Mulch won’t solve every soil problem, but it makes the garden easier to keep up. Soil that stays evenly moist is less likely to swing between waterlogged and powder-dry. Fewer weeds mean less hoeing and pulling, which also means less disturbance around roots.
In beds I won’t plant right away, I may try a cover crop. Cover crops keep living roots in the soil, protect the surface and add organic material when they are cut or worked in. Some grow deep roots that can help loosen compacted ground, and legumes may add nitrogen through their partnership with soil bacteria. The right crop and planting time depend on the season and how soon I need the bed again.
I also plan to leave healthy roots in the ground when I can. Instead of pulling every finished plant and taking the attached soil with it, I can cut some plants off at the surface and let their roots decompose in place. Diseased plants and aggressive weeds still have to go, but healthy roots can become part of the soil’s organic cycle.
A long-term project
The hardest part may be accepting that I can’t fix tired soil in one weekend. Soil improves gradually. Compost decomposes, mulch thins, plants use up nutrients, and Texas weather keeps testing every garden plan I make. I’ll have to keep replenishing organic matter and keep checking the soil rather than treating it once and forgetting it. Oklahoma State University Extension describes healthy garden soil as an ongoing project built through composting, mulching, soil testing and other regular practices.
That takes some pressure off. I don’t have to create perfect soil before I plant another seed. I need to stop guessing, protect what I already have and make choices that leave the ground a little better than I found it.
This fall, my garden may still have hard spots, weeds and areas that need more attention. I’m not expecting an overnight transformation. I’m starting with a soil test, finished compost, protected planting beds and a good layer of mulch.
The garden spent the summer working hard. Now it’s my turn to give back some of what I’ve taken from it.
Country Lifestyles
No Toilet Paper
By Bryce Angell
Eleven teenage cowboys saddled up to hit the trail. If I’d have known what lay ahead I might have turned around to bail.
We’d planned our trip, so many nights, I’d say dang near a year. My cousin was the one in charge of all the food and gear.
We rode back in some twenty miles. The horses all but spent. Then set up camp and cooked the steaks inside our new cook tent.
The horses were all fenced in or were tied up for the night. ’Twas time to sit next to the fire. A well-deserved delight.
With bellies full of grub and sitting by the fire’s glow, Old Mother Nature made her call. Said, “Time for you to go!”
I quizzed my cousin, “Toilet Paper?” Desperate in my plea. I won’t forget his wide eyes if I live to ninety-three.
He said, “I plumb forgot about the toilet paper roll! Ya better start to gather leaves and dig yourself a hole.”
The frightful news sure traveled fast out to the young cowboys. They calculated lynching but were full of hot air noise.
So, we gathered leaves, then hurried off, the well-known, “Two Step Stride.” But all too soon the leaves were scratchy for our young backside.
My cousin said, “Just do your job then head down to the lake. But don’t forget your Ivory Soap and scrub for goodness sake!”
We were finally back to normal. No more scratchy, itchy seats. Compared to leaves and grass the Ivory Soap was hard to beat.
The youngest of the cowboys said, “Let’s contact Ivory Soap. We could be an advertisement for how we’d all lost hope.
“Then Ivory to the rescue. Now our cheeks are super clean.” Another cowboy hollered, “That would be a gruesome scene!”
So that night, while sleeping in my bag, I heard the loudest splash. I rolled on out then headed for the lake in one fast dash.
The sky was clear, the moon so bright, heard yodeling calls from Loons. But on that fateful night, I swear, I witnessed two full moons.
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